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When clients and are talking about body image, i often say that our relationship with food and how we view our body is a response to something. It's a response to our past experiences, it's a response to what has been modelled to us, it's a response to our society and body ideals. When we become aware of how this, we can start to unpack our beliefs, assess whether they're helpful or not and start to create new ones. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

Sometimes i find myself fixating on things i am yet to work on and i forget how far i've come! Take some time to reflect on how far you have come and all you have achieved. This work isn't easy we often spend forever on this hamster wheel of trying to improve ourselves and without taking anytime to bask in all the glory that we have achieved we forget what we are actually working towards. It's interesting to think that i was on this "health journey" for years and it has no end in sight, it wasn’t sustainable either. I don't know what i was actually trying to work towards or if i would've ever been happy with what i had achieved. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

This one hits hard for me. I never realised how i viewed my body or food would impact and influence the people around me, but it did. Sometimes we get so fixated on ourselves that we forget that kids are listening, we are modelling certain behaviors to them. It's not my intention for this post to make anyone feel guilty, we are human beings in a very very messed up society that has unrealistic expectations of our bodies. But i often get clients asking me about their kids and often all i ever say is that it's never too late to show them you are human, that you are learning and that you want to aim towards more acceptance and body respect. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

Body image is multifaceted. It's influenced by so much and a lot of these influences we have no idea about but we are left to internalise these beliefs about our body and rather than turning that anger outwards at the people who make us feel like our body isn't good enough, we internalise it and make our problem. This is what we are taught to do, but we dont have to do this anymore. I'm not saying we should all aim for self-love, i think having a solid foundation of body acceptance and neutrality is an amazing goal to have and is one i work towards everyday. But regardless of what our goal is, we will never get there by hating our body, nothing good will come from it. But we can have self-compassion for the times when we do hold that anger towards ourselves as well. Come Check out ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

For the longest time i really felt like i needed to earn the right ro live how i wanted to live. That in order to achieve what i want i needed to look a certain way, act a certain be and be a certain way, none of which are authentic to who i am. So just a reminder to myself and to everyone else, you don't need to wait to start living your life. You can also heal and live at the same time. Don't use healing as an excuse to not go after the things that you want. You're worthy of these things right now.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

Have you ever spent all your timing thinking about and waiting for someone to choose us? Or maybe we are waiting for someone else to close the door on a relationship? None of this is relevant if we chose ourselves. If we choose ourselves, it doesn't matter if someone chooses us (it might be nice, an added bonus, the cherry on top if you will), but in the end as long as we choose ourselves we will be okay. The same thing goes for closing the door or restricting someone's access to us. People will come in and out until we decided to take back that power and make a choice for us instead of waiting for someone else to do it for us. Choose yourself.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

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